How to live a Life without Regrets

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You might be smirking at the title right now. What does a 26-year old know about life and regrets? She has not even covered a third of her life’s journey. She probably doesn’t even know yet what life’s hardships feel like.

Well, you have a point. I am hardly experienced with any of the innumerable and profound experiences that one can possible go through in his or her lifetime, nor am I in a position to advise others. And to be frank, the point of this article is not to give any kind of suggestions on life choices. I know very well that I am not eligible for that. I am here to raise some questions that haunt me from time to time, especially when it strikes me that death is inevitable and our lifespan is but a drop in the ocean of the cosmic timeline.

Why am I talking about it today? Well I woke up today to a text from my Dad that announced the very saddening news of the demise of one of the greatest scientists of our time, Professor Stephen Hawking. He was 76, but he lived a life like no other. At a very young age, he was diagnosed with Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS), a neurodegenerative disease that is known to affect the brain and spinal cord, and slowly cut off all muscle movements, causing paralysis in the entire body, and eventually death. The doctors gave him five years or less. But he lived with it for more than 50 years, fully dependent on his computer-based communication system, but at the same time igniting hope in millions of people across the globe about winning against death. But now he is gone.

So will we all, one day. We’ll stop breathing, our hearts will stop beating, we’ll be burnt into ashes or buried underneath the ground, and we’ll decay and rejoin the earth upon which we stand so proudly right now.

But what can we do till then?

We have to learn how to love the life we are living, and at the same time live the life we love. That might sound too difficult, but I believe it is possible. There are two kinds of regrets, big ones and small ones. Very simply. The big ones are the ones where you desperately wish you can go back in time and undo what you did – for example, if you caused a great harm to someone in some way, even if unintentionally. Small regrets are those that affect you momentarily and you just think about how stupid you were and move on – for example, forgetting to write something in an examination.

Guess what’s common in both these cases? Number 1: You can’t go back in time and fix anything you screwed up. Number 2: You can always learn something from your screw-ups, whether it was big or small.

And mistakes WILL happen, no matter how much you try. Maybe they will happen less in areas that you have already made mistakes before, because you are more careful now in those particular areas. But aren’t there infinite number of such ‘areas’? You as an individual have a personal, professional, social and intellectual space. And each of these spaces have infinite subspaces that are often interlinked. You might make a mistake at work because you are disturbed by a fight with your partner. It’s normal. It’s human. But how do we rise above these regrets and NOT lose our self-worth and confidence in the process? That is the question.

  • Why do we believe that we are wrong?   A lot of us suffer from insecurities about our decisions because we feel we don’t have enough support. We are a species that relies on a nod from someone else to go ahead with a plan, or to simply invest our time and energy in beliefs that we are meant to hold. But we may not be wrong at all. Maybe everyone else just has different opinions. How about that?
  • What does it take to accept the differences?  What I wrote above brings me to this second point. Differences in opinion is a part of day-to-day life. You might think pineapple is the best fruit on Earth, but your friend refuses to touch it. Everyone can have different life choices that might be completely incomprehensible to you. And it is allowed. We are allowed to be beyond the realm of comprehension of others. Accept it.
  • Why do we get so offended?   Was someone rude to you today? Was it rudeness, or is it just they way they talk? Observe. It might be how they are in general, or maybe you did piss them off in some way. In any case, move on. Buy them a coffee.
  • Why do we pretend so much?   You don’t need to say something witty or wear something fancy to sound or look cool. Know who you are, what you are, because that is the best version of yourself. People who will accept you for this version are the ones you want to keep in your life.
  • Why are we shy to talk?   We have all been there – sleepless nights, panic attacks, palpitations. Admit it or not. You can’t be in your twenties or thirties and not have suffered from anxiety and/or depression, even if mildly. These are the demons that keep hiding under your bed and keep showing up from time to time. And oftentimes, you don’t know why. Is there any particular event that triggers your rapid heartbeat at night? Is there something that caused you to breathe heavily all of a sudden? You never know. But everyone of us can find a friend or a parent or a sibling that we can confide in. Believe me, talking and listening can do wonders that no medicine in the world can.
  • How can we take that leap?   Last but not the least, do it ! Whatever you had dreamt of all your life, even if it scares the shit out of you. This might be the most difficult one, but what it will guarantee is an exponential boost in self-esteem and confidence. You don’t need a second person’s approval for that.

Life is complicated, ain’t it? But let’s also acknowledge how funny it is. It makes us laugh, cry, and do unimaginable things. We love ourselves today, we might hate ourselves tomorrow. We might love someone today, but hate them tomorrow. But also, we might live today, but die tomorrow. So why not make our today worth it?

“Life would be tragic, if it weren’t funny.” – Stephen Hawking

17 thoughts on “How to live a Life without Regrets

  1. What a wonderful post. I didn’t know Stephen Hawking passed until I read your article. He was such an amazing man and scientist. Such a great loss to all of humanity. He did teach us valuable lessons though not just about science but about life and how amazing and precious it is. He lived it to the fullest. I will take his lessons more to heart.


  2. First of all, I wanna say,that I actually do think you are eligible to give advice even at 26. Age does not determine whether our advice is good or not – we all walk our own path and we can share what we’ve learnt so far. Some 26 years old could know way more about life than 70 years old in certain aspect or depending on their own unique life experience..

    And second – I was so sorry to hear about Stephen Hawking. He was a true inspiration…


  3. I think for a 26 yr old you are wise beyond your years. I learned a shit ton of stuff by that age. I love this blog and the way you write. RIP Stephen Hawking. ❤


  4. What a wonderful tribute to Stephen Hawkings. He really did live a life filled with a wisdom and acceptance that seems difficult for a person who dealt with such obstacles in his lifetime. Your post is filled with such inspiration and positivity, I truly enjoyed reading it.


  5. I was really sad to hear about Stephen Hawking’s passing, but he did absolutely live his life to the fullest, despite all the difficulties life presented him. I think this is a great tribute with lots of great advice. Especially the piece about taking a leap. Too many of us are comfortable just being comfortable, but life is so much more fulfilling if you just take that risk…whatever it may be.


  6. Great post. A lot of wisdom here (even from a 26 year old). It’s true we need to really start to enjoy what he have and live the life we want. The clock is ticking


  7. Yes! These are wonderful thoughts. Sometimes we just live in the moment without thinking about consequences. The way we react to some things can be so hurtful, but we need to remember the long term for sure.


  8. The mind of a lifetime. Funny though how even the greatest mind in the world probably regretted lots of things. I think if you don’t regret something you’re not doing it properly xx


  9. Love this tribute to Stephen Hawking. Totally Brilliant guy… taught us so much… was told he l live 5 years , but lived 5 decades… it’s all ur will power…and yes I do totally believe… live for today , live to the fullest. Btw at 26, I think ur good to give some advice 🙂


  10. Not only do 26-year-old peeps generally have every right to give out advice, but you specifically have all the right … given how you obviously are mature beyond your years. Stay awesome! 😉


  11. I just wanna say that you are amazing, Usually, I never comment on blogs but your article is so convincing that I never stop myself to say something about it. You’re doing a great job

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